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The 2-Year-Old Sleep Regression Sucks!

Motherhood Can Be A RewardinIf You're Going Through A Two-year Sleep Regression, It's No Fun At All! Like Any Other Sleep Regressions, The 2-year-old Sleep Regression Sucks! Click Through To Learn My Top 6 Tips On How You Can Deal With Your Toddler’s Sleep Regression And Help Them Get Back To A Healthy Sleep Schedule And Finally Have A Restful Night’s Sleep. Preschool Tips | Preschooler Sleep | Toddler Sleep Tips| Toddler Tips | Sleep Tips | Parenting #sleepbabylove #sleeptips #sleep #parenting #preschooler #toddler

Motherhood can be a rewarding experience, but it’s not easy. If you’re going through a two-year sleep regression, it’s no fun at all! Like any other sleep regressions, the 2-year-old sleep regression sucks!

In the sleep department, the challenges keep changing as your baby 2-year-olds growing. You think you cracked it by 7 pm, your baby’s sleep is under control, but once you get too confident, bam, your child goes through many ages and stages of life.

Let’s take this example of my friend Alexis:

My husband and I really wanted a baby and it was taking so long. We sought medical help and were blessed with a cute munchkin, J. We thought that our problems were now over until we got home and realized we had a colic baby who had neighbors nominating me for ‘the worst mother ever’ award. When he was past the colic stage at three months I felt victorious. He could sleep through the night, play, laugh and only cried when necessary. Just when I thought I had pulled through, he turned two and now I understand why parents call them the “terrible twos”.

Why is my 2 Year Old Not Sleeping?

At two, your kid will discover a big secret.

A word like ‘NO’ exists!!  He will be aware of his independent existence.

Your rules are no longer followed without resistance. Your child now has opinions too.

Sometimes it seems like a hormonal teenager (not to be confused with threenager) possesses your little angel.

No napping… check.  Constant bedtime battles at bedtime….check.  Asking to go to the potty when your child is still in diapers…check

So why does this sleep regression exist in the first place?

ISSUE 1: YOUR 2-YEAR-OLD WANTS TO ASSERT CONTROL.

A two-year-old child is beginning to discover himself. He realizes that he can think and explores his feelings. He will question your authority, especially when your decision contradicts his feelings which he may not have much control over. He will also test your limits just for the sake of doing it. In such a case, you need to be firm yet calm.

You don’t want him realizing he is taking a toll on your emotions.

Tip #1: GIVE YOUR 2-YEAR-OLD LIMITS AND BOUNDARIES

Limits and boundaries are what your child desires and craves (even if you feel otherwise).  But, make your child feel like they have a decision within your limit. Have your child choose a toothbrush or PJs. Have your child pick a song or story they want to hear at bedtime.

These are easy wins and allow your child to feel empowered in the decision-making process.

If nap times are a battle, or you are experiencing a nap strike, take the pressure off the act of sleeping... forcing a toddler to stay in bed or a crib is one thing; forcing them to lie still or close their eyes is another. Use your words such as “it’s your choice if you sleep or not, but you must rest your body to have the energy for the rest of the day.”

Once the pressure is gone, your child will begin to go back to napping.

ISSUE 2: YOUR 2-YEAR-OLD CONVERTED FROM CRIB TO BED (A BIT TOO EARLY)

This is a topic I hold near and dear to my heart since my oldest daughter was converted from a crib at age 2, and that was the WRONG THING TO DO! My daughter’s sleep wasn’t great, to begin with, and it tanked once she didn’t have the confines of the crib.

Many parents struggle after they convert their child from the crib since their child realizes they can leave the bed—multiple times.

Sleep Regression Tip #2: HOW CAN YOU SAFELY KEEP YOUR 2 YEAR OLD IN THEIR ROOM

What’s important now to get sleep back on track is to explain sleep rules and set a clear and actionable plan when your child leaves the room.

While closing the door causes a lot of anxiety for a young child, a tall gate (like these) can keep your child safe inside their room and treat their room like a big crib (once all furniture is secure).

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ISSUE 3:  IS THE 2-YEAR-OLD SLEEP REGRESSION CAUSED MY ANXIETY?

A two-year-old has too much going on in his life.

You forget that everything is new to him, no matter how obvious it seems to you. The kid feels overwhelmed by everything. He is enrolled in a daycare or preschool or has playdates galore.  He begins potty training, gets a new sibling, starts to make friends, and so many other things that are so new and exciting and overwhelming all at the same time.

I am as guilty as anyone by over-scheduling my kids with daily activities, but there are so many interests that I want to provide my children to get a taste of.

Unfortunately, these massively packed days can take a toll on a child’s sleep pattern.

Sleep Regression Tip #3:  BRING YOUR 2 YEAR

If sleep starts to suffer, make sure to end activities early to continue an age-appropriate bedtime—schedule dinner between 5 pm or 6 pm to allow adequate runway for a solid bedtime routine. Try not to give in to the temptation to make your child your version of an achiever.

Predictability should still be a priority in his life.

4.Teething and illness = not fun!

Oh, two-year-old molars, those are fun!  NOT!

The last of the molars are begin cutting out of your child’s gums right around age 2. Teething causes great discomfort for a kid and has can sometimes hurt his sleep.

So if you see your child up in the middle of the night gnawing on your crib rails, this could be a good sign those molars are hurting.

The good news is that these two-year-old molars should be the last of teething for a while!

If you are confident your child is teething, you can proactively provide a pain reliever (safely according to the doctor’s dosing instructions).  After several days you should see things back on track.

Illness will also throw a curveball to sleep.  Think of all the fun viruses your child picks up from his snotty playmates at school or daycare. Illness can include temperature change, change in body posture, change in stool, and whatever else is so unlike him.

When you have a sick child, all sleep rules are thrown out the window, so feel free to quickly make sure that your child feels better.

Sleep Regression Tip #4:  Pause sleep training during illness

Once sickness and teething are not an issue, you may need to go back to set limits at night to get sleep back on track.  Unfortunately, your child may have some bad habits that unfortunately need to be changed with consistency on your part.

5. 2-year-olds suffer from separation anxiety and fear

At two years, your child becomes more aware of the world around him. He realizes that a lot goes on when he is asleep, and being left out may not be an option. His judgment of what is true and what is not is, however, blurred. He takes everything to be true. This is when his imagination can start to go wild.

He doesn’t like the shadows on his wall or the monster he thinks he heard outside the window. When your child is afraid, it’s always best to provide him security and but the message should be clear – all is OK in the world.  You can always use comforting words and spend time making sure that you love seeing him all cozy in bed.  The message should be about safety and security and “you’re right down the hall.”

Sleep Regression Tip #5:  Minimize the Fear of Sleep for your 2-year-old

Don’t let his fear cause you to throw all your sleep habits out the window. Don’t be tempted to let him come back to your bed or jump into bed into the middle of the night.   You will need a solid plan in place when he wants to come to your room, even though you can empathize with his feelings but, of course, out of sleep times.  The best course of action is silently returning him to his own room if he comes into your room.

6. SURVIVE WITH a balanced and consistent schedule.

A 2-year-old requires about 12-13 hours of sleep each day (and some even require more), and the majority of 2-year-olds still nap around 1 pm. Make sure you balance your child’s need for sleep with their ability to explore the world.  Scheduling lunch, nap, and bedtime at this age will be a win/win for all.

I typically recommend that a baby’s bedtime be flexible based on the quality of naps throughout the day.  Starting around 2, I use a more consistent bedtime (give or take 1/2 hour) unless your child has not napped and is a hot mess and ready to go down.

Sleep Regression Tip #6: Focus on an earlier bedtime – no later!

The consistency throughout the day will help your child understand what’s next and what’s coming adding structure and routine that your child needs.  A worn-out toddler is cranky, so make sure that you prioritize your child’s need for sleep each day.

According to Marc Weissbluth, in a Today’s Parent, 90% of 2-year-olds in his practice are sleeping at 7 pm (he’s now retired, but I believe it!).  It’s vital to get your child to bed in a calm state before he becomes overtired and sleeping becomes harder.

Conclusion

When it seems too overwhelming, know that the 2-year-old sleep regression is just a fun particular period that you get to go through.. and survive all at the same time.  With the above time, you can rest assured in the knowledge that it’s the last sleep regression episode you will have to deal with, and it doesn’t last long.

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Susie Parker

Susie Parker is founder of Sleep Baby Love and a Certified Infant and Child Sleep Consultant through the Family Sleep Institute. When Susie's not ridding the world of sleepless families, she loves spending time with her two girls that have given her a ton of real world sleep experience head on.

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